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Welcome to the CMWF Blog! We hope you'll find some encouragement and comfort here through stories of military life and truth from God's Word.

Losing Control, Learning Surrender

“Too much to do.”  How many times have you heard that internal voice repeat itself in anxiety and guilt on any given day? Yesterday I found myself sitting in an urgent care waiting room for nearly four hours, frantically wanting to be at home. Even though I knew I was where I needed to be, I rebelled against the way the day led me and tried to hold onto my plans in anger and resentment.

My husband and I survived, even though not every task on my itemized list was checked off. We didn’t eat a meal made from scratch. I didn’t make it to the gym (I’m sure you can tell how that broke my heart). Work took a backseat, and the infernal baseboard dusting was ignored yet again. But we lived, and if only I had surrendered to God’s plan for my day sooner instead of the vision that I stubbornly stuck to despite all the arrows pointing me in another direction, I could have been more obedient and enjoyed the gift of every moment, rather than grumbling and letting time slip ungratefully through my hands.

Letting go of the illusion of control over our lives is tough. In the military we are reminded incessantly that we don’t have control – over where we live, our husbands’ work hours, how long we can be employed or keep our kids in the same school. But we can take comfort that God has control. He has a plan that is always greater and better for us than the ones we devise.

As we try to make plans for our day or our future, we have to remember this truth:

“Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails” (Proverbs 19:21).

We have to ask God to show us His will in every day, and we must be aware enough of His loving, gentle presence to recognize it and be obedient.

It is incredibly comforting to remember that as we go through this process of surrendering to God’s plans, we are never alone, regardless of what the enemy tells us (Hebrews 13:5). Not only has God promised us that we will never be alone, but He also tells us that He is working for the good of those who love Him (Jeremiah 29:11, Romans 8:28). God knows our plans are inferior and tentative, compared to His eternal and glorious blueprints. By trusting in God and His plans completely, we can throw off the shackles of anxiety and rejoice in each moment God has provided. We can look toward the future with hope, a gift we could never provide for ourselves.



What areas of my life am I struggling to surrender to God’s control?

What fears do I have about giving my plans over to God?

Am I choosing to live today in obedience and joy, or am I acting in resentment?


Father, thank You for the gift of today. I know that You are working for my good and Your glory. I praise You for Your sovereignty, for always being in control. Thank You for Your awesome plans that are so much better than mine could ever be. Help me to trust You today. Give me eyes to see Your plan, and a humble heart to submit to it throughout the day so that I can live joyfully in each moment. I choose to lay my plans down at Your feet, accepting whatever You have prepared for me today. Amen.

Mary Parker is an Air Force wife who works as a public relations writer. A South Carolina girl at heart, she and her husband have recently relocated to Fairbanks, Alaska. Mary spends her spare time honing exercise and cooking skills, and is a self-proclaimed DIY addict. You can read about how faith and hope shape military family life, and check out Mary's latest projects, at her blog, Mary's Mischief.

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Avatar  Stacey J 8 years ago

I needed this reminder; my husbands EAS is next month and while I am trusting God to be in control of a new job for him I'm busy making plans for things I want NOW and not letting God be in control of my everyday. I need to remember that all things happen in God's timing and in His perfect plan for my life!

Avatar  Stacey J 8 years ago

Thank you for this reminder to let God be in control of my ever day; while my husband is transitioning from the military to the civilian world I have been repeating over and over to myself that God is in control of this time in our lives but I too forget that he is also in control of my everyday and that I just need to rest in Him and not worry about my future plans ( and I have so many of them!).

Avatar  Mrs. H. 8 years ago

Oh Mary, I needed this today. I was in tears this morning over something I am having a tough time surrendering. It's SO hard to say that He is in control when the situation is SO ugly. But I know He is, and working it out for His glory, not mine. Thanks for the reminder friend. {P.S. Living vicariously through you right now...I miss Alaska!}